WOTY: Unfriend

New word of the year according to New Oxford American Dictionary, meaning “to remove someone as a ‘friend’ on a social networking site such as Facebook.” Synonym: defriend…

It happened to me even before I knew the word and not that long ago… It’s how I found out a dear friend stopped being my friend… I explained this in previous entries, so I’m not going to repeat it… But when I saw this in the newspaper I just thought how easy it is to name such a word “word of the year” and how painful it is when it occurs to someone…

But I turned the page… so, I’m moving on, with or without my friends…

For Diablo Rojo – Rodrigo y Gabriela

I am who I am

In my yearn to please others, I used to be a very caring person, always being there for others, up to the point I let people use me and there wasn’t any room left for me and my desires. I realised it and changed my behaviour and now I’m too self-centered or so they say…

And then I read these words on a friend’s blog: “You live, you learn. But you don’t change who you are. People are people and we know by now that most of the time, they prefer to project their own reality onto others.”

And I realised I’m fed up trying to change myself and/or my behavior to please the world…

For my own good, I’ll try to stop justifying my actions, feelings and thoughts. And secondly,  before I start telling something, I’ll just stop to think whether what I have to tell is of any interest for the other person. If not, I’ll listen instead… If that’s not good enough for others, tough luck, it’s good enough for me…

I am who I am, and I’m not a bad person…