“Every change hurts, regardless of how much we yearn for it. But only when we put an end to one life, can we start a new one.”
Anatole France
How come these wisdoms come to me unasked?
50/50?
When my wife is with me she yearns for The Other… and she’s not able to hide it… She says she’s giving us a real chance to save our marriage, despite what she feels for The Other… But her actions tell me otherwise… As does her body language…
I want to be with her, but when 90% of our conversation include The Other, it becomes rather unbearable… But maybe I have a temporary solution… What if she spends one week with The Other and then one week with me and our daughter? In that way she’ll know whether life with The Other would be as great as she believes… She’ll know whether she misses me when she doesn’t see me for a whole week… She’ll know whether she could bear being separated from our daughter for a whole week… And because we would have more space, maybe we’ll grow to each other again… Because now, she bearely touches me… No intimacy at all… She says she still thinks I’m attractive and handsome, but too much has changed…
Does this sound crazy? I’m not sure I’ll bear her absence, but it can’t be any worse than now bearing her partial presence…
Thanks Buddha
“The secret of a healthy mind and body lies in not to grieve for the past, not to worry about the future and not to get ahead of problems but to live wisely and honestly in the moment.”
Thanks Buddha.
I wish I had your wisdom to follow this…
Go on?
What to do when there is no trust?
What to do when I see she shares more with the other than with me?
How far should I go in the fight for our love?
And how do I avoid our daughter becoming the greatest victim?
I cry everyday, I pray everyday, I try everyday…
I never thought love could hurt so much…
Which reminds me of one of last J-Lo’s hits “Que hiciste?” in which she sings “You mixed up all the love I gave you with the permission to break my soul”. I love the song… And sometimes I wish I could be capable of what she does in the videoclip… Have a look: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ccGUJIPrF2A
